| OK, to get us started, here's my "Carla"
story. I worked with Carla three days each week, and every Tuesday I
assisted her with grocery shopping. Carla viewed these excursions as
a power trip, and often put items in the cart just to get a rise out
of me. She would buy a sack of pears, apples or oranges,
eat just one, and the next week throw the rest of them out. It was a
common Tuesday afternoon for me to arrive at her apartment and throw
out most of what she had bought the week before. Still, Carla and I
enjoyed each other's company and we would share stories of our home
life. Each fall I would tell her about my apple tree and its
fabulous apples. Each fall she would say she wanted to visit my
house and pick apples with me. I agreed that this was a fun idea.
The third fall that I worked with Carla, the sun and the moon
aligned, and we organized a trip to my house. It was a beautiful
afternoon. I provided picking bags for everyone. I put lawn chairs
under the tree so everyone could rest. I even served cold apple
juice and warm applesauce. Everyone picked as many apples as they
wanted, and Carla had a full bag. I congratulated myself that a good
time was had by all. I made sure that everyone took home the exact
bag of apples that they had picked. So, the next Tuesday, when I
went to Carla's, I was chagrined to see that all of the apples were
in her refrigerator, still in the bag. "Let me cut them up for
you," I said. "Throw them out," she said. I was
stunned. "They are wonderful apples and you picked them. You
can't throw them out," I said. "Throw them out," she
said. "I just can't understand that. For three years you have
told me you wanted to go to my house and pick apples. And now you
want to throw them out!"
"I said I wanted to go to your house and pick apples off
your tree. I never said I wanted to eat them," she said.
She was right. I had failed to
listen, really listen to what she had said.
Now it is your turn.
Email me your
story. ddstaff at doc3design.com. |